Come and See

From the Light Seer's Tarot, the King of Cups; from the Tapestry Oracle, Faith:

When awareness is brought to an emotion, power is brought to your life.

— Tara Meyer Robson

In a leadership position, the King of Cups must be a good diplomat, listening to what the other person needs and skillfully communicating how that need might be met without conflict. Diplomacy also requires emotional intelligence: the ability to be aware of and manage his own emotions while understanding how they influence his interactions with others. The King connects with his senses to ground himself when emotions are especially intense - the smell of the ocean air, the feel of the water, and the sound of the waves. He has Faith in his technique to calm himself because he has verified it through use. He invites us to try this direct experience for ourselves. 

Turning Towards

This week I'll be using the Light Seer's Tarot, created by Chris-Anne Donnelly and published by Hay House. The other deck I'll be drawing from is the Tapestry Oracle, created and self-published by Kendall Eifler. Today's draws are the Moon and Nurture:

We turn away from the difficult, we turn away from freedom.

—Anshin Devin Ashwood

Emotions that we thought had been tamped down, stuffed into our subconscious mind, have a way of reappearing and pulling us under. Grief, anger or fear can wrap us in their tentacles. Father's Day has this effect on me, after having three dads - one that abandoned, one that abused, and one that loved but died unexpectantly. Yet emotions don't want to hurt us, we just need to feel them without attaching any stories. As the discomfort fills our body, we allow their intensity to crest, then fall away. Nurture reminds us to offer ourselves the warmth of unconditional kindness when these emotions knock us off our feet. As Anne Lamott reminds us, "“Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you."

Don't Spill the Beans

From the Neuzeit Tarot, the Knight of Swords; from Rory's Story Cubes, Beans:

Today's gossip is tomorrow's headline. 

—Walter Winchell

Blocking the road, this Knight of Swords forces us to pause before we go running off to call, text or post some tantalizing or inflammatory information that we've heard or read. He's a lover of truth and a hater of gossips, liars and hypocrites. His big book is like consulting Snopes or FactCheck to see if what we're about to let loose is fact, fiction or a mixture of both. Beans bring to mind a quote by Rudyard Kipling: “Words are, of course, the most powerful drug used by mankind.” Spreading unchecked information might give us a thrill, but those words are like unknown seeds that we plant that could boomerang on us. It might be wise not to "spill the beans."

Posted: No Swimming

From the Neuzeit Tarot, the Six of Swords; from Rory's Story Cubes, the Bridge:

Recurring, unhelpful thought patterns shape how we feel and what we do. They feed into anxiety and anger. They limit us...

—Rick Hanson

Last night, I saw a recommendation by cardiologists that advised people not to check their smart phones for an hour after awakening because it can set a negative, reactive tone for the rest of the day. In this card, four sharp tips point outward, as if looking for people, places and things that have caused our anger or fear. But two tips point at each other, an acknowledgement that the agitation and unease we feel is rooted within us. The Bridge offers us an option, which neuropsychologist Rick Hanson explains: "We don't have to believe our thoughts—we can recognize that they are just thoughts. We can step back and evaluate whether or not our thought patterns are truly serving us, or reinforcing limitations, assumptions, and self-doubt." That stream of thoughts will always be there, but we don't have to swim in them.

Traditions

From the Neuzeit Tarot, the Two of Wands; from Rory's Story Cubes, the Whip:

There's a need to respect the past, but it's a mistake to revere your past. 

―Bob Iger

The figures representing the two wands on this card remind me of a mother and daughter. One represents tradition and the other innovation. There is nothing wrong with enjoying the familiar ways of doing things, but change (the Whip) can force us to do something new. My mom has hosted Thanksgiving dinner for many years, doing the bulk of the cooking (and declining most offers to help). But at 87, she tires more easily, and having a lot of things cooking at once has become like spinning plates. She has decided that we'll still gather together but forgo the turkey and dressing and just have something very simple to eat. When traditions are replaced, it is important to realize we don't have to get upset if we consider the root of their purpose - in this case, the gratitude of simply being together.

Master of Patience

From the Neuzeit Tarot, the Three of Pentacles; from Rory's Story Cubes, the Turtle:

A man who is a master of patience is master of everything else.

―George Savile

In the Three of Pentacles card, the illustrations on each coin offer symbols which represent the way to master a skill. Leonardo's Vitruvian Man (influenced by the writings of Roman architect and engineer, Vitruvius), suggests an understanding of proportion and measurement - or learning the basics. The four-axis labyrinth pattern (such as in the Chartres Cathedral) represents pilgrimage, an acknowledgement that this will be a journey (not a quick hop) in finding what we seek. The thirteen-pointed star, or tridecagram, is often linked to ideas of growth, transformation, and completion (developing expertise). Logging thousands of oceanic miles each year, Turtle reminds us that even when we become a master in our field, we need to keep looking for inspiration and exploring new developments. With any skill, learning never stops.

Make Your Own Recipe

From the Neuzeit Tarot, the Magician; from Rory's Story Dice, Scales:

The first time you make something, follow the recipe, then figure out how to tailor it to your own tastes. ―Ruth Reichl

When I pulled this tarot in the dim light of morning, I could have sworn it was a club DJ mixing some music. But the Magician is similar, in that he uses his tools and resources to create something. Like the DJ, he might manifest what is expected, following directions that are given. But when he realizes that he has a gift - though perhaps not like others - he can expand how things are mixed and made. As the Scales show, just doing things to please others can create imbalances. In the words of Carl Jung, "The shoe that fits one person pinches another; there is no recipe for living that suits all cases."